#SocialCafe 8.34 Chat Transcript

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Building Relationships on Social Media #SocialCafe 8.34

Tuesday #TwitterChat List #4 #DareToBe 8pm #TnEdChat 8pm #5THCHAT 8pm #SocialRoadTrip 9pm #custserv 9p… https://t.co/rWdiHKZABY
— Danielle Mamagona ‍♀️(@PokeyLuWho)

Elecctricity flashing - storms flashing . . . always interesting in this corner of the world :)#DareToBe #SocialCafe
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

Welcome to tonight’s #SocialCafe – say hello and share who you are, what you do, and your ideal client/customer https://t.co/JZkslXQ39E
— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat)

@socialcafechat Tweeting from S. Central PA where I continue to write, speak, teach, and consult on leadership and… https://t.co/81JRS0Y9lr
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

Hey all - a round of applause (and pat on the back) for @Kathrynclang for hosting tonight's #SocialCafe ! Thanks, Kat!
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

#GettingtoKnowYou What was the name of your childhood best friend?#SocialCafe https://t.co/FvDSYAM56B
— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat)

@socialwebcafe And be sure to cross your fingers - things have already gotten interesting ;)#SocialCafe
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

Sounds exciting ;). #SocialCafe https://t.co/3tnUtLhaqm
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

@socialwebcafe @Kathrynclang May the force be with you. #SocialCafe https://t.co/k0RO693WN0
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

2 Tips to Help Us Build and Grow: 1) Please follow each other on Twitter; and 2) Please retweet the questions. Than… https://t.co/qDZSbQMUwr
— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat)

@socialwebcafe @Kathrynclang And applause: #SocialCafe https://t.co/dQJG9q9keE
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

Q1: How much time do you invest in your relationships?#SocialCafe https://t.co/9g24q9nO1c
— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat)

@_TomGReid @socialwebcafe I'm not sure this force field would be that helpful :D#SocialCafe
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

#GettingToKnowYou George. Originally an invisible friend and later assigned to a boy doll. #SocialCafe
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

@_TomGReid This made me #gigglesnort :D#SocialCafe
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

A1) Well, 34 years in one, and zero since that ended. #SocialCafe
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

#Gettingtoknowyou with #SocialCafe My best friend growing up with Kay - still keep in touch with here and her family!
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

@Kathrynclang Always love when I can get a #gigglesnort from you! #SocialCafe
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

@_TomGReid Oh my - you reminded me... I had imaginary friends Jacob and Esau... Something about asking my Dad to sl… https://t.co/vRLZb7oCsl
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

@socialwebcafe Always smart to never drive faster than your guardian angels can fly. #SocialCafe
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

A1: I've been investing 30 minutes in the morning walking with my husband. Also chat time on the back porch with my… https://t.co/JQOaf3lG2p
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

@socialwebcafe @_TomGReid That's a story book waiting to be written!#SocialCafe
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

Q2: Why is it important to grow relationships?#SocialCafe https://t.co/2P9p97NIaf
— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat)

@_TomGReid @socialwebcafe My guardian angels apparently drove jet planes ;)#SocialCafe
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

And, to quote @Kathrynclang that brought a #gigglesnort @_TomGReid :). #SocialCafe (And, great tip! :) ) https://t.co/HHEmN05LfD
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

A2) Probably not the best one to answer this. Likely to be highly cynical. #SocialCafe https://t.co/NOFSAlQBhU
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

We also help each other grow by sharing the journey. Start getting your #ShamelessPlug tweets ready to tell us what… https://t.co/jezVdcAlEx
— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat)

A2: It's important to grow relationships because everything worth doing and worth being is founded in (and on) rela… https://t.co/OmfCwWd6Kq
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

Incredible - I found the yellow motorcycle (is that what you call it?)... Looks exactly like this (the one that Jac… https://t.co/EzWcucjUMJ
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

@socialwebcafe I think that's a scooter ;)But it was your imaginary friends riding it so I guess you can call it… https://t.co/8I6sF1cu30
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

So well articulated @Kathrynclang - I mean, what is life (or business or success or anything...) without those rel… https://t.co/1IVb916fcG
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

Q3: How do you know if a relationship has value or if it's a resource suck?#SocialCafe https://t.co/QK4tx0Kye3
— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat)

@Kathrynclang @socialwebcafe I was going to stay Vespa, but if it's street legal, it qualifies as a motorcycle, IMO. #SocialCafe
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

A3: Like anything, you have to look at the cost of investment compared to the rate of return - and you define cost… https://t.co/AShcRJCPm4
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

A3) I think I will be maintaining some distance in such things for some time to come. Do not doubt their importance… https://t.co/XTXvf3JpKB
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

@_TomGReid I trust my judgement even when the other side of the relationships doesn't follow through. By defining… https://t.co/Phl7DlwjRK
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

A3.1) I have always tried to be a generous and giving person. I think that is why the discovery that some people ca… https://t.co/KcngcxQCyX
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

Q4: What can you do when a relationship becomes one-sided?#SocialCafe https://t.co/cVSKwY9zm4
— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat)

@Kathrynclang This is similar to how I dealt with some growing anger issues. I was reacting when people did not mee… https://t.co/oFAAkhV6fw
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

@Kathrynclang Yeah, I would agree that it was a bit lacking but probably all my 3 year old mind could conjure up at… https://t.co/F9Qro1fokw
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

A4) Run as far and fast as you can and do not look back. #SocialCafe
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

@_TomGReid And it also leaves room for them to surprise you - when you don't put your expectations on them!#SocialCafe
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

@Kathrynclang That would be a very pleasant surprise. And some friends have actually demonstrated that - much to my surprise. #SocialCafe
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

@_TomGReid @Kathrynclang Wow - thanks for sharing that, @_TomGReid Sometimes it is amazing to me how something th… https://t.co/mFj60xjXdn
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

A4: When a relationship becomes one-sided then be okay with investing fewer resources.Relationships can be for a… https://t.co/nfCUePFOBr
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

A great help in times of building relationships online, with social media >> @commun_it #SocialCafe
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

Q5: When is it okay to stop investing in a relationship?#SocialCafe https://t.co/17CmqqjXCb
— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat)

A4 To some extent, relationships have to do with ROI (return on investment). But, I don't think of it in terms of… https://t.co/r1hh80JQ06
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

A5 If a relationship becomes toxic (i.e. plagued with negativity) it may be time to move elsewhere and feed the pos… https://t.co/nSHFN7GjVq
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

@socialwebcafe Negativity is DEFINITELY a warning sign!#SocialCafe
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

What @Kathrynclang said. #SocialCafe https://t.co/9fGHHziMlt
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

@socialwebcafe Probably good advice. I will take your word for it. #SocialCafe https://t.co/ELCf1Hx4G3
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

Q6: What is your top tip for evaluating relationships?#SocialCafe https://t.co/D7lDbsegwa
— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat)

@Kathrynclang @socialwebcafe I never try to change anyone in a relationship. That is a choice only they can make. I… https://t.co/PQ9PVILyit
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

A6: How do you feel after you've engaged with the person.If you come away feeling less than you went in, you need… https://t.co/Q2M57V3IoG
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

Interesting visualization of helping each other out with our special skill sets in a relationship #SocialCafe https://t.co/hPCgwFCQcM
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

A6) I want to inspire others to be the best possible version of themselves and I want the same in return. Challenge… https://t.co/jazYlqxUpX
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

POWERFUL wisdom here!"I choose what part others are allowed to play in my life." #SocialCafe Thanks, Tom! https://t.co/cxWXFFACcM
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

RT @_TomGReid: A3.1) I have always tried to be a generous and giving person. I think that is why the discovery that some people can truly b…
— Ética Global(@GlobalEtica)

@_TomGReid @Kathrynclang So true @_TomGReid ! Even in a marriage there may be a team but there are two individuals… https://t.co/BoRgD0BjXx
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

@Kathrynclang I have always resolved to make sure that in any relationship I have given more than I've taken. On ba… https://t.co/TuPnJpq4vo
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

More powerful wisdom - give more than you take!#SocialCafe https://t.co/W3PmyeARxt
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

Q7: What questions do you have about investing in relationships?#SocialCafe https://t.co/Lbxf9TuDeI
— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat)

@Kathrynclang Thanks you. One more thought. #SocialCafe https://t.co/Cz4ZQtjk5q
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

@_TomGReid And the key to a life of joy is finding the ones that love you no matter what :D#SocialCafe
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

Q8: Ok, now it is time to hare your #ShamelessPlug by telling us what you are up to so we can be a support and enco… https://t.co/USwC1XBWtk
— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat)

OK - a bit cliche and I admit getting a bit of a head start on Valentine's Day in thinking about relationships here… https://t.co/7R6RngOpLs
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

A8: My #SocialCafe #Shamelessplug – #GrowingHOPE daily will launch September 2 – Mon thru Sat as a Podcast AND YouT… https://t.co/qDnKqTdS0g
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

A8) No plugs this week. Well, no shameless ones anyway. #SocialCafe
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

A8 Ok my #ShamelessPlug is that our little #SocialCafe community is approaching nine years old! Yay! That is a… https://t.co/hsJtDcrZHJ
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

@socialwebcafe We need to have a party for the birthday :DMaybe with presents ;)#SocialCafe
— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang)

You are hitting our #gigglesnort ratings ;). That is a plug :). #SocialCafe https://t.co/Yf4WfMSSUJ
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

@socialwebcafe I think I'm the newbie here. #SocialCafe
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

Yes - what @Kathrynclang said - check out her awesome content - writing, speaking, radio, podcast - great stuff the… https://t.co/CXLv9MIvuW
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

@Kathrynclang @socialwebcafe I raise my hand as being present every week. #SocialCafe
— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid)

Thank you for joining us for our #SocialCafe Chat. Just wanted to let you know we appreciate YOU! https://t.co/BwQo3MwJAI
— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat)

RT @_TomGReid: A6) I want to inspire others to be the best possible version of themselves and I want the same in return. Challenge me to be…
— Ética Global(@GlobalEtica)

That isn't always easy lolI love it when my husband's reply is "I was thinking that but didn't say it..." in resp… https://t.co/T6tOI2F5dT
— Deborah(@socialwebcafe)

Join us next week, Tuesday 8/27, 9p ET and bring a friend! #SocialCafe https://t.co/224LhQXeQW
— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat)

RT @_TomGReid: A6) I want to inspire others to be the best possible version of themselves and I want the same in return. Challenge me to be…
— Debbie ☕(@BrashleyDebbie)

RT @_TomGReid: A6) I want to inspire others to be the best possible version of themselves and I want the same in return. Challenge me to be…
— Nathalie Gregg(@NathalieGregg)

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